Do the quiz at the end of this page to test if someone is Gaslighting you!
Gaslighting is a manipulation technique. It is one of the most harmful forms of emotional abuse and aimed at destroying someone’s self-confidence.
The person doing the manipulation does it to gain more power over the other person. It causes the victim to start doubting himself/herself and his/her idea of reality. Moreover, it can also make you more dependent on the abuser.
Do the sentences below ring a bell? Bad news!
- “It’s okay, babe. You wouldn’t understand.”
- “It’s not so crazy that everyone thinks you’re a jerk.”
- “Let’s see if I can say this in a way even you’ll understand.”
- “I’m sure you put a lot of effort into your makeup, but, no offense, you should take it off before anyone sees you like that. “
- “You’re always upset, you’re always playing the victim. That’s why no one loves you.”
- “Before you met me, you were nothing. Without me, you’ll become nothing again.”
- “I mean, look at you. Who else would want you?”
- “If you do that, it proves you don’t care about your family and everyone will know that.”
- “If you really loved me, you would do this.”
- “I hate to argue, but you drive me crazy!”
- “I have no other choice than to yell, you’re so unreasonable and stubborn!”
- “I saw the way you looked at him. You can’t tell me there’s nothing wrong.”
- “Why don’t you give me your mobile if you’ve got nothing to hide?”
It’s hard sometimes to find out if and why someone is trying to take psychological advantage of you. The person who does the abusing is usually very careful and particular in the way they approach their victims.
They have an extremely sneaky and methodical way of making you do what they want you to do.
This Quiz was designed to give you an indication of whether or not someone in your life might be mentally and emotionally abusive to you.
(Click here to read more about Gaslighting.)
(Click here if you think you may need help from a mental health professional.)
Do the quiz to test if someone is Gaslighting you!
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Every now and then they compliment you in a way that makes you think they must be ‘not so bad’ after all.
- Yes.
- No.
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Their actions very rarely match their words.
- Yes.
- No.
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They deny they said or told you certain things. It makes you doubt yourself.
- Yes.
- No.
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This person uses what you care about as ammunition to hurt you. (Your kids, friends, family)
- Yes.
- No.
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This person lies to you with such strong conviction that you start doubting yourself.
- Yes.
- No.
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It seems like this person tries to destroy your stability and routine.
- Yes.
- No.
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This person tries to turn people against you.
- Yes.
- No.
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They tell you you are crazy.
- Yes.
- No.
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They tell others you are crazy.
- Yes.
- No.
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They tell you that no one should be trusted and that everyone is a liar.
- Yes.
- No.
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You don’t feel the way you used to be. (Or you don’t remember what you used to be like)
- Yes.
- No.
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You feel more confused/instable.
- Yes.
- No.
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When something goes wrong around this person, you feel like it must have been your fault.
- Yes.
- No.
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You’re anxious, nervous or unconfident around this person.
- Yes.
- No.
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Around this person you often wonder if you’re maybe just too sensitive.
- Yes.
- No.
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You often apologize to this person.
- Yes.
- No.
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You always think it’s your fault when something goes wrong around this person.
- Yes.
- No.
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You feel like everything you do is not good enough.
- Yes.
- No.
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You have a gut feeling something’s wrong, but you don’t know exactly what.
- Yes.
- No.
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You often ask yourself whether your reaction to this person is appropriate (for example, whether you are too irrational or not loving enough).
- Yes.
- No.
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You feel the need to apologize to others for this person’s behavior.
- Yes.
- No.
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You don’t tell your confidants in too much detail about this person because you wouldn’t know how to handle the confrontation.
- Yes.
- No.
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You feel isolated from your friends and family.
- Yes.
- No.
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You’re finding it increasingly difficult to make your own decisions.
- Yes.
- No.
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You feel hopeless and you don’t enjoy the things you used to enjoy.
- Yes.
- No.
